"When You Say Something Is For The Girls And The Gays Can You Include Me In That As Well" is a reaction and redraw meme built on a 2023 TikTok caption from user @colemxn.2, who filmed himself smiling and giving a thumbs up while asking to be included alongside "the girls and the gays"1. It's also known as "For the Girls, Gays and Coleman," and the format works as a phrasal template where the final name gets swapped for whatever character or subject the poster wants inserted into that in-group3.

Redraw versions typically keep Coleman's grinning selfie composition and swap the face for anime protagonists, cartoon characters, streamers, or fandom-specific figures. The joke leans on the meek, apologetic tone of "if it's not too much trouble, thanks guys," which reads as a very online way of asking to be let into a queer-coded space.

To make one, people typically pair the "girls, gays, and X" caption with a redraw or edit that puts a character or celebrity in Coleman's grinning thumbs-up pose. Common convention keeps the exact wording, especially the "if it's not too much trouble thanks guys" tail, since the meek phrasing is the whole punchline.